In March we are going to start our series from Matthew 6 called “No Spiritual Show Offs.” I mentioned last month, a couple times a year we like to mix things up, usually when we change a series. Instead of a regular Blast and Ignite format, we have a worship night. Because of some snow days, our first worship night has been pushed back to March 16th. If you want to know more about a worship night, please refer back the February’s post.
Here’s a quick overview of the month:
Teenagers and digital communication go hand in hand. It’s quick, easy, and convenient; which is why my suggestion for this month might seem so stupid. I think you should consider write a letter to your son and/or daughter. Yes, let’s de-evolve and pick up the ancient tools of a pen and paper and write a good old fashion letter.
This simple, counter teenage cultural way of communicating could have a big impact on him/her and improve your relationship. A letter is unique in that it communicates time just by the nature of having to sit down and actually write something down. And it communicates effort; it takes intentional thought to write something good. Compare that to the short, reactive, instant text message and you can see difference. Granted, it does take more effort (a lot more!) to write a long, well thought out text message, but what teenager will want to read that? (And what adult has the finger dexterity to type it out?) It would come across overwhelming, where a written letter doesn’t, for some reason.
“But what would I say?” Great question. Maybe tell your son/daughter about some of your favorite memories from their childhood. Or tell them about the qualities that you enjoy and admire in them. Really anything is fine as long as it’s not critical, doesn’t put pressure on them, or anything else that could start a fight. And resist the temptation to make this about you: how you’ve done something wrong, or you wish things were better, or your hopes and dreams. This is about communicating love and acceptance to your son/daughter for who they are right now, regardless of what has happened in the past or might happen in the future.
Wouldn’t you like to get a letter like that?